@wendy22 just so you know, these strategies may work for typical autism but can be ineffective or create distress for a child with a pda profile ( which the OPs child may have ( TBD). 

@everyone has issues have you looked into pathological demand avoidance? 

Look into pathological demand avoidance(PDA). It’s a profile of autism. Try the pda society of the uk website. The violence is likely fight response to demands 

@rush I agree it seems very subjective- there could be a lot of reasons why Adele might avoid or seem to avoid someone other than a weight comparison

In my experience private hospitals are worse for traumatic birth- they offer epidurals on arrival which is a convenience for the dr not the patient and increase the need for Caesarian’s which are also a good money maker for the Dr and often convenient compared to waiting out a drawn out labour for a vagunal birth. .. Public is a better place to birth in Australia 

Very balanced. Love this